Yes, I am known to watch Oprah and last season Tatum O’Neal was on discussing her recent arrest and almost relapse back into drugs. She was talking about the day she was arrested. It was a Sunday, she said, and Sundays are sometimes lonely days.
I never expected to be single at this point in my life. Lately I have noticed this trend the last several years of myself and my single friends struggling to find their place in church. From both my male and female friends, young and not as young, I have listened to them complain about not wanting to go to church alone or how Sunday’ make them feel lonely. Leaving church alone, when everyone else is going home with their family can bring you down.
It was that reason a year ago that made me get in my car and drive from Corona del Mar to Yorba Linda. My family goes there and I don’t have to be alone.
After leaving my job at the local mega church where I had attended for over 15 years I found myself lost. Over the next several years I visited many churches both in Orange County and LA. I served at some, I attempted to get involved in many but I always felt alone and like I didn’t fit. For a short time I stopped going but deep down I had a hunger to have a church home again.
While I might like change in many areas of my life, I want roots at a church. At some point last year I realized I love my church. The worship and teaching touch my soul every week. I am starting to get involved and meeting more people. I’m skipping the sad singles groups and trying to serve beyond myself. I still feel a bit out of place each week sitting among families but I do believe we were created to be in community. I am trusting that God will meet me in my obedience.
If you are single and reading this I’d love to hear from you, how do you feel?
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I feel we should celebrate singleness – it is something the churches need to get used to as many folks are single these days. Some people might prefer to be single – and meet in groups with other single or nonsingle folks for events like Bible study, prayer, ministry, a praise time, or just simple fun. Churched should have an after service event for all those who would like to not go home alone right after the service – lunch and a time to celebrate life together! – Would write more but must go – am a busy single! Bless ya!